Hello, everyone, just in time for Turkey Day here in the States, I’m a stop on the Queer Romance Blog Hop! I love answering questions!
1. Let’s start off with the getting-to-know-you stuff: How do you identify, and what does that mean to you? Whatever level of detail you’re comfortable with, of course! I identify as panromantic asexual and to me that means I have an equal opportunity heart and no vacancy in my crotch.
2. What’s your preferred “flavour” of queer romance (e.g. trans*, f/f, m/m, menage with queer characters, etc.) Why? My favorite “flavours” are m/m, ménage and trans*/genderqueer stories. I find them fascinating and sweet and so freakin’ not standard straight romance. There are so many “flavours” of people in queer romance who turn the mold upside-down or just smash it into bits. That’s all kinds of awesome to me.
3. Do you write/read/review? Do you think being queer affects your participation or platform in romancelandia? I write and read, and I’d like to say that my being asexual doesn’t affect my ability to enjoy or write romance at all or enjoy a little tingle now and then if a lovescene is really good.
4. What drew you to queer romance? I blame Sailor Moon. No, really. Almost 20 years ago, this baby ace was addicted to watching this show about love and beauty and all that great stuff before I realized that it was a translated anime. Thanks to getting a computer two years after that, I looked up the characters I loved and realized that holy shit – one of my favorite couples were two guys! And I wasn’t freaked out at all, fuck I liked it a lot. And it went on from there of reading and then writing and so on…
5. What do you love about queer romance in general, and/or your specific subgenre? I kinda answered it for number two, but I’ll elaborate. In most straight romances, the men don’t really change from one particular trope. It got dull for me real quick. But in m/m romance in particular, I can read about big, strong men, and slender, strong men, femme men, uber-masculine men, men that are kinda chubby, and men who are big bears. They laugh and cry and love and get pissed and fight and care for who they love openly (or they will eventually). They are tops and bottoms and versatile, doms and subs and vanilla and kinkier than a public hair. Most have dicks, some don’t, some don’t even identify with the gender binary at all.
They are varied and amazing and love them all.
6. What’s your pet peeve? “I want to see more ‘real men’” and its ilk. Don’t get me wrong, I understand that people have their preferences and that’s cool, but the very concept of there being ‘real men’ makes me want to spit. It’s transphobic, sexist, homophobic to assume that there is a such thing as a “real man”. The joy of reading queer fiction is getting to throw away society’s tropes
7. What growth would you like to see in the genre, going forward? Any ideas on how to accomplish that? I’d like to see our genre grow, period. There are so many brilliant minds out there and so many stories that need to be told.
8. Do you seek out other queer authors when you read? Not immediately, I find discovering that an author I like is queer to be a nice surprise, but it’s not something I actively look out for.
9. How do you feel, in general, about straight peoples’ participation in reading, writing, and reviewing queer romance? Back to eight, the more the merrier, really. I’m already stepping into issues I have no direct experience with (man on man sex), so I have no problem with straight people doing the same with queer romance. Love is love is love, nearly all of us have been touched by it before and I feel that a good love story is universal.
10. Rec us 3 titles in your chosen subgenre and tell us why you love them.
Anything by Amy Lane: I’m cheating, I know. But if you want a great example of brave and excellent and steamy writing, Amy’s your lady.
Fearless by Cat Grant: There really does need to be more transmen in queer romance, and Cat does a beautiful job with Gil. I love him so much!
Room at the Top by Jane Davitt and Alexa Snow: If you like BDSM ménage, this is your book. If you aren’t sure, this is your book. The authors took BDSM tropes that make my eyes roll in little (been there, done that, remember?), and gave them life and personality and *sigh* I wanna read this was again!
Thanks for reading and for following the tour! Be sure to use the links below to check out more great posts from our participants!
In my book, This Little Whatever, my main character Jonathan owns a huge Army style canvass duffel bag that he carries everything that is important to him. Clothes, toiletries, shoes, costumes, tackle box full of metal rings and pliers (he’s an eccentric fellow), everything, neatly folded and bagged. Unless he’s partying, it’s not far from reach. It’s his entire world, and it fits on his back. He lives his life surrounded by people and friends and fun, but he’s always ready to run at the first sign of trouble. It’s the way of his core group of friends. His “home” is portable.
Dean, on the other hand, lives in a small home on acres of land, miles from the nearest city. Alone. Social anxiety and PSTD has kept him almost completely homebound, save for work and solo excursions, for years. It’s his sanctuary, the one place in the world where he feels safe. His “home” is permanent, but isolated.
In the book, both of these gents have to reconcile a lot about their definition of “home” in order to find what they need the most, love and each other. Jonathan’s bag is a metaphor for his trust, his heart; very few people can touch that bag and he’s constantly worried that someone will go into it and steal something. When Dean opens up his home for that one night stand, he’s literally letting someone into his heart, showing his own trust.
I didn’t even realize that sort of significance while I was writing TLW, and I hope everyone who reads it will see it too.